Dating to just friends
After a year in Seattle he came back to Indiana to visit, and we decided to try and date for real. Ashley: We talked so much about every decision and all of our feelings so that even when it felt weird, it quickly went back to not feeling weird.
When he showed up in Indiana the last time, I was terrified to try and date ANYBODY for real.
Nothing felt weird to me, but the transitions didn’t just happen on their own.
At each new point, we always had a conversation to find out where we were and how we felt.
Ashley: We met in a college class and slowly became friends.
He made me laugh a lot, but I was very suspicious of him. And he was a white boy with a slight country accent who drove a pick-up truck.
And since there isn’t that much of an investment in the “friendship” after only one date, it wouldn’t make sense to put in the time to truly turn that woman into a “friend”.
Ashley: We hooked up for a semester in college, then spent about two years being mostly just friends again while he did an internship in NY (I was still based in Indiana) then moved to Seattle.I would add that because the lack of incentive for a man to “get” sex from a woman he will loose interest quickly.The biological drives are always there beneath the surface.Otherwise, they’ve got no incentive to stick around in the future.